Deep thoughts re: Dr Tim's poll on Ladies suffering for beauty

Recently a couple of friends and I went to a Drag Show to watch a friend perform. Some of the performers were truly beautiful and amazingly looked like women. But there were a number of these "Queens" that were totally overweight with bad wigs, poured into tight dresses, and wearing scary up. I felt kind of sorry for them as they attempted to lip sink to their chosen song.

We all had a great time and I have the pictures to prove it. Afterwards as we were discussing the performances the subject of how these big old fat ones could summon up the nerve to get up on stage and not be totally mortified as we would have been. The agreed upon conclusion: the difference between men and women, even if it’s a man pretending to be woman is that men seem to have an imbedded self confidence, a kind of “Male Privilege” that has been handed down ancestrally over generations.

Men parade around on the beach with their big fat hairy stomachs hanging over their shorts and think nothing of it. How often I see flabby old guys or just butt ugly guys with these beautiful coiffed and decked out women who tend to exude a sense of self consciousness not about their escort but of themselves. They fluff their hair, constantly reapply lipstick, and then sit still and listen to some droll story with rapt attention.

One of our trio told us about her nephew who is now her niece. The one important thing that she noticed after the sex change was that she had retained this inner pride, assuredness, self confidence.

Most women struggle with a “Female no privilege” has been imprinted on our grey matter over the centuries. In an insecure attempt to defend ourselves we attempt e to look as perfect as we can so maybe no one will notice that we are indeed inferior.

I have noticed that the pendulum has begun its return trip. More and more women balk at the second citizen thing. That women aren’t as smart or capable, have no science or math skills. Over the past years, during my illnesses 10 out of the 14 medical professionals that have treated me were women. This for me, a child of the 60’s and a MS supporter(who at 20 was sure we'd have had a couple of female presidents by now), is pretty encouraging.

Don’t get me wrong. I do not want to strip the men of this confidence. I just want to see in appear more and more in women.

Now as to “White Privilege” all of us Caucasians need first admit that it does exists and then step back creating a space for people of color can share in a joint human privilidge.

Epilogue
I did ask my friend about the wardrobes and high heels, which I said I hadn’t worn in years and believe that they are the modern day form of foot binding and why would anyone who didn’t have to wear them do so was he crazy? Oh and then yes where do you’re a’hem privates go? The short answer is there is a lot of tape involved and some other stuff. I said, “Doesn’t it hurt?” and he smiled and said, “Yes, of course but it’s worth it.”

Seems that is their female side where how you look is way more important than how you feel. Although, inside I see that it makes them feel good.