Jun 27, 2008 02:29AM GMT
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Relationships - Families & Parenting
Is it child abuse to spank your child's bare butt with a belt?
My son is pushing me to the edge of insanity.-
i agree with you.
but i mean what about those kids who dont learn lessons so easy...?
the ones who are hard headed nd need a little extra discipline?
nd i mean im nt tlkin about beating the crap outa a kid for like goin to play in the toilet...
i mean something like...serious.... -
Exactly.
I mean there are some things that you can just say kids will be kids too
Things they do't know any better for.
But when I see kids who will throw fits and cry and hit their parents because they won't buy them a new toy or something, and the parents are just like "Stop it, sweety" I'm like ...are you serious? if that was my kid, then I'd make sure they learned not to throw fits and such. -
YES
i agree totally...
but you know what...
you can only blame the parents...
some kids are gna turn out like tht without a more forceful discipline...
and you know what i cant understand...
when parents like threaten tht therr gna do sumthin...nd then dont do it...
how do they expect the kid to like respect them, and actually take them seriously....?
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Answered No
No.When I was growing up and we broke the rules we got it with anything and everything.I mean I got it with wood hangers, broom handles, belts, you name it. and not once did I ever feel abused.. C'mon, how can a petite woman discipline her strapping teenage sons that are twice her weight and twice her size? and theres a big line between discipline and abuse.And the smart parent knows when they're getting close and don't cross it.Everytime we "got it" we were guilty and we knew exactly why we were getting hit.The lesson we learned was that if you want to dance, you have to pay the band.I also think what helped our normal adjustment was the fact that there's strength in numbers.An only child might feel abused only because theres no peers around her experiencing the same thing. So an only child's normal reaction to an ass whuppin' is Why Me??
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Answered Undecided
I do not agree with wipping a kids butt naked, However sometimes a kid needs his butt spanked.. This is the reason kids can be so bad today because of our goverment. I had my butt smacked a few times and I knew not to piss my mom off, -
Answered No
That is why as a parent i feel the government has taken our right away to discipline our own children. They think that by letting them do whatever they want and let them know that if the parent strikes them they have the right to threaten their parents to call the police for child abuse is gonna fix the situation. All they (jail system) are doing is setting them up in a way to keep being bad or to go out there and commit a crime so the incarceration proccess can start after that i'ts impossible to turn back the hands of time now they are going to hold your sons or daughters future ion their hands. Is it any reason why we have a higher percentage of young adults and alot of younger children facing life in prison with no possibility of parol, is that a way to discipline our children well for the jail system it is, our children to them are just a number and a hefty monthly income that pays most if not all the salaries, they don't care whether your son or daughter ever gets released from prison and all because you can't discipline your child the way you want to. If you spank your child because you don't want him hangin around the neighborhood thugs then you go to jail and if you don't spank your kids then they will hang out with the thugs and eventually get in some kind of trouble then your government steps in and raises your child for you in the jail system. is that as far as us parents want our government to go as to let the youngsters of the future run wild well not for me.That is why as a parent i feel the government has taken our right away to discipline our own children. They think that by letting them do whatever they want and let them know that if the parent strikes them they have the right to threaten their parents to call the police for child abuse is gonna fix the situation. All they (jail system) are doing is setting them up in a way to keep being bad or to go out there and commit a crime so the incarceration proccess can start after that i'ts impossible to turn back the hands of time now they are going to hold your sons or daughters future ion their hands. Is it any reason why we have a higher percentage of young adults and alot of younger children facing life in prison with no possibility of parol, is that a way to discipline our children well for the jail system it is, our children to them are just a number and a hefty monthly income that pays most if not all the salaries, they don't care whether your son or daughter ever gets released from prison and all because you can't discipline your child the way you want to. If you spank your child because you don't want him hangin around the neighborhood thugs then you go to jail and if you don't spank your kids then they will hang out with the thugs and eventually get in some kind of trouble then your government steps in and raises your child for you in the jail system. is that as far as us parents want our government to go as to let the youngsters of the future run wild well not for me.(less) -
Hear, Hear. All American's stand up for what made this nation great!!! A good spanking never hurt a spoiled brat or unrepentent hooligan. This generation has no respect for authority or property and as a result are criminally minded con-artists, thieves, liars and beggars. Their parents didn't get the whipping they sorely needed as youngsters and now they are reaping what they lacked: discipline.
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Answered Yes
I looked up the definition: child abuse is the physical, psychological or sexual maltreatment of children. Today almost any correction of a child is considered child abuse.. A minor can sue their parent(s) for almost any real or imagined abuse. Sometimes it is so insidious that it is beyond a crime, it is proper to remove the child from the home ( if the child is still alive) and imprison forever the abuser(s). Most of the time child correction is not abuse.. The Bible says in Proverbs 23:13-14NIV "Don't fail to correct your children. They won't die if you spank them. Physical discipline may well save them from death." That doesn't mean beat them! Dr.Spock, a well known psychologist from the 50's was against spanking.. Later on in his life,after he retired,(he was in his 70's), he said, " I was wrong!. The children have become disobebient and disrespectful, under my advice. I raised up a generation of monsters." Hitting a child with anything other than your hand,especially on a bare bottom, in my opinion is child abuse. Time out is not for the child, it is for the parent, so they can calm down. To punish or discipline a child while you are angry is wrong. You must calm down first, so your correction is for the best of the child and not for making you feel better. The hardest job in the world is being a parent. The hardest and the most rewarding if done with wisdom, family support and friends. It is extremely hard to do it alone and many mistakes are made because of stress....I looked up the definition: child abuse is the physical, psychological or sexual maltreatment of children. Today almost any correction of a child is considered child abuse.. A minor can sue their parent(s) for almost any real or imagined abuse. Sometimes it is so insidious that it is beyond a crime, it is proper to remove the child from the home ( if the child is still alive) and imprison forever the abuser(s). Most of the time child correction is not abuse.. The Bible says in Proverbs 23:13-14NIV "Don't fail to correct your children. They won't die if you spank them. Physical discipline may well save them from death." That doesn't mean beat them! Dr.Spock, a well known psychologist from the 50's was against spanking.. Later on in his life,after he retired,(he was in his 70's), he said, " I was wrong!. The children have become disobebient and disrespectful, under my advice. I raised up a generation of monsters." Hitting a child with anything other than your hand,especially on a bare bottom, in my opinion is child abuse. Time out is not for the child, it is for the parent, so they can calm down. To punish or discipline a child while you are angry is wrong. You must calm down first, so your correction is for the best of the child and not for making you feel better. The hardest job in the world is being a parent. The hardest and the most rewarding if done with wisdom, family support and friends. It is extremely hard to do it alone and many mistakes are made because of stress. I raised 5 children and I made many mistakes, I wish I could do over many wrong decisions I made in raising them. I didn't have support and I didn't enjoy my responsibilities. But, Praise God, today they are wonderful adult children, with children of their own, and I love being NaNa.(less) -




Answered Yes
yes.. a belt is made of leather and it leaves bruising and welts.. and sometimes hits where it shouldnt.. find a different way..I believe that there are better ways to discipline children when they are older.. when young a pat on the butt or fingers is ok..I was abused as a child and shudder to think of belts..