Jul 04, 2008 04:37AM GMT
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Relationships - Families & Parenting
Mother In-Law Love Her Or Hate Her? Why??
for a lot of people holidays are horrible because they mean getting together with you Mother In-Law so how do you fell about it?
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I do love her, but at times it is hard to remember why. She is VERY critical, and has been verbally abusive to her kids, including my husband, their whole lives, I am the one who gets to deal with the results.
When I was pregnant she told me that I could not get an epidural, unless I wanted to hurt my baby, and be selfish, I had to use cloth diapers, and that I should home make all of her baby food. We did not do ANY of these things, it is simply none of her business.
Our daughter was lactose intolerant, so she had soy formula, which she didn't approve of, she also did not think that it was right that we gave her gas drops to help her tummy.
She was PISSED when I stopped trying to breastfeed because my milk never came in. She could have cared less that I went to lactation consultants many, many times.
She has told me that I starve my daughter because she was crying while I was making her a bottle.
She has also told me that I have no morals because I took an 'A' in a class that I did not deserve.
She has told me that I buy our little girl too many clothes, which is REALLY none of her business, she isn't paying for it. Her kids used to be scared to get their clothes dirty because she would yell at them. She would also refuse to buy them new shoes until their old ones had holes in them.
She thinks it is a waste to send our daughter to a Montessori Pre-school.
In the winter, when it is snowing, she refuses to turn the heat up above 64, even with the baby. We hav...I do love her, but at times it is hard to remember why. She is VERY critical, and has been verbally abusive to her kids, including my husband, their whole lives, I am the one who gets to deal with the results.
When I was pregnant she told me that I could not get an epidural, unless I wanted to hurt my baby, and be selfish, I had to use cloth diapers, and that I should home make all of her baby food. We did not do ANY of these things, it is simply none of her business.
Our daughter was lactose intolerant, so she had soy formula, which she didn't approve of, she also did not think that it was right that we gave her gas drops to help her tummy.
She was PISSED when I stopped trying to breastfeed because my milk never came in. She could have cared less that I went to lactation consultants many, many times.
She has told me that I starve my daughter because she was crying while I was making her a bottle.
She has also told me that I have no morals because I took an 'A' in a class that I did not deserve.
She has told me that I buy our little girl too many clothes, which is REALLY none of her business, she isn't paying for it. Her kids used to be scared to get their clothes dirty because she would yell at them. She would also refuse to buy them new shoes until their old ones had holes in them.
She thinks it is a waste to send our daughter to a Montessori Pre-school.
In the winter, when it is snowing, she refuses to turn the heat up above 64, even with the baby. We have told her that we cannot come over when it is cold, it just isn't safe.
We happen to be lucky enough to have 3 sets of grandparents in the area and 6 aunts. We only allow our daughter to spend the night away from home once a week, so people start calling on Monday to reserve her for the next weekend...first come first serve. She has NEVER called, and then she bitches that she never gets to keep her. I have told her the deal many times, as has my husband, she still doesn't call. As a result, she only gets her when no one else can take her and we actually have plans.
There is SO much more, but I think that is enough for now : )
She is a nice woman, but she has her moments.
My step-mother in law is a different story. We get along GREAT.
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Well, it wasn't always easy. We just never gave up. I think a lot of people wind up divorced because they're too lazy to work through their problems and own their responsibility for those problems.
Problems will come up. Fights will happen. They're both opportunities to grow as a person and as a couple. If you can make it through the tough times together, you'll have a stronger bond because of it. -
Answered Hate Is A Strong Word But Close
Gad - I hoped I would never have to say this but my mother in law is a crazed black hell demon. She pushes everyone away with insane ramblings about how people don't love her and show her respect. But she is so mean to everyone that they are terrified to get around her. She gets mad at everything and no one knows what or if will trigger the anger. She threatens to "cut everyone off" from some elusive fortune she may or may not have. My wife loves her but she treats my wife like a dog and I have to grin and bear it.
Too bad, because mothers everywhere used to like me.
Answered Hate Is A Strong Word But Close
Gad - I hoped I would never have to say this but my mother in law is a crazed black hell demon. She pushes everyone away with insane ramblings about how people don't love her and show her respect. But she is so mean to everyone that they are terrified to get around her. She gets mad at everything and no one knows what or if will trigger the anger. She threatens to "cut everyone off" from some elusive fortune she may or may not have. My wife loves her but she treats my wife like a dog and I have to grin and bear it.Too bad, because mothers everywhere used to like me.