Nov 13, 2007 08:57AM GMT
Question
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Relationships - Dating
Okay, is it wrong for a 13 year old girl to be dating a 17 year old guy if they don't have sex?
Say yes if you think it's wrong still,and no if you think it's not wrong.
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raves +2 posted Jan 28, 2008 05:47PM GMT
Answered Yes
First of all, I think that there's something wrong with a 17 year old that he would want to date a 13 year old. But, their lives are at different stages. The 13 year old is getting ready for high school, while the 17 year old is preparing for college. They are completely different mind sets, with completely different agendas. -
raves +2 posted Dec 18, 2007 01:44AM GMT (edited)
Answered Yes
Most 17 year old boys only have one thing on their brain...SEX. Maybe right now he is not pushing the issue, but he could be waiting for a time where you leave yourself open then move in when you are emotionally down. I'm not saying all men are pigs...but I will say for the most part a lay is a lay sweetie. If you are sure its what you want then date him, but be careful as a situation like this could be very messy if he decides to look to another girl for his pleasures while he promises sweet nothings to you. I wouldn't want you to get your heart broke at such a young age when the world is full of people. -
raves +1 posted Dec 09, 2007 09:24PM GMT
Answered Yes
I think something is wrong with a 17 yr. old that would meet a 13 year-old and think they would make a potential partner. Sometimes young people try to seem older or act older, but a 17 year-old should know the difference. When I was 13 I still played with Barbie, for goodness sakes!! I don't think that a 13 year-old could effectively cope with the feelings that come with attachment and loss or understand the myriad ways they could be manipulated (boy or girl). -
raves +1 posted Dec 06, 2007 11:56AM GMT
Answered Undecided
Well, I was dating a 17 yr old when I was 14. My parents hated it... but we weren't doing anything any farther than kissing. Looking back now 14 was awful young to have a boyfriend at all, let alone going into college. 13 is even younger. I'd be willing to ask if the parents approve, and if not hold off on being more than friends for a couple more years. -
raves +1 posted Nov 13, 2007 04:42PM GMT
Answered No
People mature at different levels of age...So it has a lot to do how mature the person is. If there is no sex...I would say the girl is smart enough to know what the ratification could be if say she got preg. So I say go date, have fun and keep it clean cause peer preasure will one day kick in... -
raves +1 posted Nov 13, 2007 03:54PM GMT
Answered No
Well for now they r both minors n as u say if they don't have sex key word "Don't" but u see we do not know if that is going on now do we n I am sure they r not going to put out a news letter informing us that they r now r they!
That is a decision that should come down to the 13year old parents were r they in this matter if it were I it would not happen but that is the problem u can't be around them 24/7 now can u if ur at work n they r at school.
But if u raised ur daughter or son right they will get the message but with raging young hormones that is a big if. -
raves +1 Nov 13, 2007 04:17PM GMTSo given the "raging hormones" thing and the fact that (you say) you wouldn't allow it, you still feel there is nothing wrong with a 17yo m dating a 13yo f ?? Not a very responsible answer in my opinion. Or did you mean to vote "yes" and clicked "no" by mistake? And is this 53-year old TROY or his teenage son? Because no 53-year old talks like that, with the r's and the u's and the n's and what not. Gramatically correct responses may not be easier to type, but they are damn sure easier to read. I got a headache reading that. No offense intended, but I'm just saying... Is that what you'd say to your 13-year old daughter if she asked you?
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raves +1 posted Nov 13, 2007 03:05PM GMT
Answered Yes
Yes I think it's wrong for a 17 year old guy to be dating a 13 year old girl. Overlooking the sex since they're not having it, I still wouldn't want my 13 year old daughter to be hanging out with some 17 year old guy. I think at that age, age does matter. What would they have in common? I'm sure his curfew would be later than hers, he would be allowed to go to places that I wouldn't allow her to go. Heck even movies, there's movies that he can get into that I wouldn't want her to see at her young age. He's in high school, if not college and she's what 8th grade maybe 9th. Heck the dating age for my household is 16, so she wouldn't even be allowed to date.
Now when she turns 17 and he's 21... better yet, she's 21 and he's 25 ~ FINE!!! -
raves +2 posted Nov 13, 2007 01:43PM GMT
Answered Undecided
It does really depends on the people involved but I would say that it wasn't a positive move. The difference of 4 years is nothing once both people are past 21 but before then...it does make a mountain of difference. A kid's development at 13 is much different than that at 17. -
raves +6 posted Nov 13, 2007 12:22PM GMT
Answered Yes
I think 13 is too young to be dating anyone, period. And when he turns 18 it becomes a criminal offense. It's good you aren't having sex, but I'm willing to bet you do more than just hold hands, or you wouldn't call it dating. If you were 19 and he were 23, that would be fine. But right now you should be thinking about your future and getting a good education, and worry about boyfriends later. I mean, he'll be in college and you'll be starting high school. The difference between 13 and 17 is much greater than the difference between 19 and 23. You can still be friends with the guy if your parents know him and approve, but save dating for later. This may not be what you want to hear and you may dismiss this, but think about it, you know its right.
Answered Yes
I think 13 is too young to be dating anyone, period. And when he turns 18 it becomes a criminal offense. It's good you aren't having sex, but I'm willing to bet you do more than just hold hands, or you wouldn't call it dating. If you were 19 and he were 23, that would be fine. But right now you should be thinking about your future and getting a good education, and worry about boyfriends later. I mean, he'll be in college and you'll be starting high school. The difference between 13 and 17 is much greater than the difference between 19 and 23. You can still be friends with the guy if your parents know him and approve, but save dating for later. This may not be what you want to hear and you may dismiss this, but think about it, you know its right.